SOS, We’re Only Human!
Has it ever occurred to you that help is a four-letter word? Is that why most people are so reluctant to mention it? Of course, I’m being a bit ridiculous, but I’m surely not the only one who notices our resistance to seek support.
When is it OK to ask for help?
When your boss piles on one more project?
When you’ve lost income potential because you don’t have enough time to do the follow-up?
When you tip the scales at 10 lbs. above your ideal weight? 30 lbs.? 75 lbs.?
When CRA comes looking for those taxes?
Last month, I finally attended a workshop where I learned some of the basic skills needed to get more out of the program I use to send this newsletter. I used to hate preparing my newsletter. I struggled every month with the formatting. I was scared to personalize the mailing. I always had trouble getting the text to wrap around the images. I always intended to get help. It was on my radar for at least 5 months. Just never got around to it. I’m glad I did — and I’m already planning to return to the same facilitator to learn how to format my e-book.
This month I completed 3 organizing sessions with a new client. He had been slowly working through his clutter over the last 2 years. But he hit a wall. What remained in his home was too overwhelming for him to see the possibilities and make a plan. Upon the recommendation of a family member, he reached out to me.
At the end of each of our sessions he said, “I can’t believe how much we did. I never thought it would move this quickly.” In-between our sessions, he continued to rearrange furniture, flatten boxes and relocate infrequently used items to the basement. He even shampooed the carpets one night! Being able to see the floor again, gave him a renewed sense of hope. It would be possible to make his house a home. And he was learning the skills that would help him do just that.
At our final session he said to me, “I used to feel like there was a tsunami looming high above me. Now I just have a pool of water up to my ankles.” True story.
I don’t know if I’ll be invited back to help this client finish the job. The important thing is that he has a new set of skills to implement when he’s ready to move forward, and he’s not afraid to ask for help if needed.
Working with a “coach” always gets you to your goal faster. As we hear in the Harvey Brooker ad: “If you could do it alone, you would have done it already.”
So, if your weight, health, clutter, taxes, or whatever have you feeling overwhelmed and hopeless, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Needing help doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human. And it means you are wise enough to recognize your strengths, and the benefits that will result when you accept support in those areas of your life that are a greater challenge.
Have a great day!